The definition of being "a man" is extremely distorted in the minds of young males. What once constituted the characteristic of a man no longer suffices. Time, change, and feminization of society have transformed the meaning of "man" into some kind of blurred human species.

In respects to women, which would differentiate what being a man is as simple opposites, means first knowing what a woman is. If the male has no clue as to what his God-given counterpart is here for then he is far from reality from the start.

The first truth of being a man centers on how he treats a woman. If he has no knowledge of what that woman requires and how to meet her needs then he has no real knowledge of himself. For, a man accents the woman and vise versa.

The first need of the woman is to be loved. An uncompassionate man lacks this knowledge and neglects to meet her needs. If a man does not show her love he has neglected the essence of the male-female relationship. The next need of the woman is commitment and if the man cannot commit he has again lost a part of that woman; this is an untrustworthy man.

Respect, of course, is the need of anyone but in respects to the male-female relationship a man can easily take her for granted. This is a selfish man and one that loses her support. Once he loses her support he is once again on his own.

Thus we have:

· Compassion
· Commitment
· Respect

These are the needs of the woman and every man should know these needs first hand. The unknowledgeable man who does not know women because of the lack of knowledge of himself and his purpose neglects all these needs and does exactly the opposite, which would be, indifference, infidelity, and disrespect.

Finally, the worst kind of man shows no emotion toward the woman by inflicting verbal, sexual, and/or physical abuse on the woman. This man is not a man; he is nothing more than a beast without even a mind.

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