Many may not believe in the spiritual world and that daily we are all encircled about by sprits that influence our actions, if we allow them to. The husband-wife-children family bond is a spiritual union that evil un-relentlessly pursues to destroy.

When God developed the male-female union, and graced us with the gift of children, He knew exactly what he was doing. Children learn, grow and feed from the parents, all aspects of character traits, habits, attitudes, opinions, and much more, develops them into the person they will be.

Couples must understand this power they have over their children's growth and realize that the words they use, the actions they portray and the decisions they make in life are absorbed by their children to no end. If either the father or mother allows the evils of the spiritual realm to control how they treat one another, they will give over the power of their to children to that evil.

Many couples have healthy arguments because it is a natural way to relieve frustration and to remedy any differences between them. And many couples argue right in front of the kids without realizing they are there, or they forget, or they believe the kids cannot hear them. And when the debate gets heated, it's difficult to refrain from speaking too loud sometimes. Regardless, when the tensions run high, one or the other couple may say something extremely negative that effect the other deeply and the children who are listening.

The attitude it is said in, such as vindictiveness, spite, meanness, or even in jest, is a spirit that attaches itself to a child and that child will adapt that attitude against the other spouse, father or mother.

If the woman calls the father stupid, ignorant, or something worst, the child will register that information against his or her father and will begin to expect stupidity or ignorance from that parent, and vise versa. If the man calls the mother a slut, bitch, or whore, the child will be affected.

Depending on the bond between the child and either of the parents, for instance, the daughter is closer to and favors the father more than the mother, that child may lose respect for the mother because of her father's words, or could loss respect for the father, because he said those things about the mother.

If there is constant arguing in the home, the children are open to many evils and attitudes and will definitely come away emotionally scared with an attitude against one of the parents. Regardless of whether the father or the mother is right or wrong, arguing in front of the kids must be a disciplined affair.

Children love unconditionally regardless of their parent's differences. But it is important to know what things they hear coming from your mouth, as an adult. Especially when the words are directed toward the child's other parent. We often make the mistake of thinking if we can no longer tolerate our spouse, the children cannot either or that they share our feelings.

The best remedy for arguing between couples with kids is to go into a separate room and maintain a low voice quality. If that cannot be avoided because the debate is too heated, at least control what words come from your mouth and what actions you display in front of your children.

© 2005 By Cartel Q