The singles scene in America has never been more fanatical. Not since the seventies when the bar scene, the mood ring, and the horoscope was the fad has America gone to such extremes to find the right soul mate or any kind of mate. Today there is the Internet, reality TV matchmaking and marriage shows, and the rise in personal ads. Could this exaggerated search for companionship be the result of an unwillingness to commit by the general public as a whole, or the need to fulfill the emptiness of a loveless society?

An easy connection could be made from the decline in marriage and the rise in divorce to this increase in the dating fad, but this is too easy and obvious. There is a deeper psychological reason that people are in such desire for romance. The decline in marriage and the rise in divorce are variables in the equation but the more prevailing and deeper reason would be the lack of love and the true willingness to commit. Even if a person stumbles on the one they believe could be it, the chances of the relationship being a lasting one are no different than the chances of any previous relationship lasting.

The fascination is the meeting part, the romance and the spontaneity of the moment. This signals an unscrupulous motive behind the whole romance scene. In other words, if people are looking for romance and companionship in droves the way they are today, then most likely a previous relationship failed. Whatever the reason for the previous one failing could contribute to any new relationship failing also. If a spouse cheated and the relationship ended, there is no guaranteed that the new spouse or companion would not do the same. If a previous relationship failed because of a lack of communication, there is no guarantee that a new relationship would not fall to communication problems also.

If everyone in the current dating scene had similar problems with past relationships thus is the reason they are seeking a new one, then what possible solution would be effective enough to eliminate whatever problem there is in any relationship? With everyone having the same or similar problems, the problems only cycle through the relationship scene and people cycle through one another without end. This is the social equivalent of a disease without a cure. The longer the cycle continues without a serum to lasting relationships, the shorter the relationships will be and the more widespread relationship switching will be, thus giving rise to sexual activeness beyond control.

Internet Dating

Almost everywhere you surf there is a pop-up, or ad for singles and dating online. There are websites strictly for dating, web portals that offer a dating and singles section, and advertisements and articles that offer people solutions and opportunities for finding the right one and keeping the right one. Some communities have pages and pages of photos of people seeking mates and dates. Pages littered with profiles, likes and dislikes, preference of income, religion, education, number of children, and even sexuality. People have their pick of the litter on the Internet.

Many sites with photos have people unashamed to show their bodies or talk about their sexual fantasies. Some invite others into their homes via web cams to watch them pose and live life. The opportunity to talk to one another long distance has advanced to the point that distance means nothing; people all over the world are finding each other online. What may seem like advancement in technology has many researchers baffled as to whether this is really a good thing or is it harmful. Many doors open to other areas of sexuality that are not for the good of old fashion romance, but alternative perversion.

Reality TV

Violence on TV is the lesser of the virtual evils now. Sexuality has taken a backseat also to what is now known as reality TV. Of course, Hollywood would not be left behind. They are sinking deeper into the world of reality instead of rehearsed entertainment. More shows are debuting that offers the viewing public a peep into the real lives of people and their dating habits and sexual fantasies.

Preferential marriages and the excitement of choosing your mate have boomed into a multimillion-dollar expense in the world of reality TV. The public has turned into snoopers, spies, and peeping toms thanks to Hollywood and the secret desires of American society. Monogamy is dying a slow death and giving way to rampant promiscuity. The moral values of America are rotting away, which will eventually open a large hole to a demon more powerful than we are.

The problem with the idea of virtual romance is no one ever knows what really happens after someone finds that special one. After the hot moments of giving the public what they want, who knows how long the relationship last afterward? No medium has ever offered the public a look into a successful match made on television or online one, 2 or 3 years down the line. The sociological game of studying human nature living life before millions of people is fun while it last, but what are the results?

The experiment of matching two people with the exact same preferences for a relationship is logical in a sense that this seems right, but what happens afterward? Did the relationship last or what? Of course the masterminds of these dating and reality games are not really out to offer solutions to society, but to capitalize on their lustful desires and sexual fantasies. This cannot be good. Society is turning into nothing more than a bunch of advertised and televised whores. And people wonder why the rest of the world hates America. It is because we lack morality and values.

© 2003 by C.R. Hamilton