Oprah began to cry as she interviewed New York Jets football star Laveranues Coles, who first released his story to The New York Times about being molested for years by his stepfather.

My question was as I watched the interview, how could his mother who was in the audience lay up with lay down with, have sex with a sick freak for years and not have a clue that he was raping her son on a nightly basis.

Minister Farrakhan said "No woman should say that she can't make it without a man." I feel this was a spiritual statement, because if you believe in God/Goddess, Allah, The Universe or something that is more powerful than money, the American government or your own innate abilities, then with "faith" in that belief you won't put yourself or your children in harms way.

But wait, let's take a look at especially the Black woman, why are you having a child in the first place, with women's rights and abortion on the line, Black women need to become more conscious, aware, informed and just plain up on present day issues.

Some women are overly needy, feeling that they "must" have or need a man, they can't bare to be along, or they want more money and or security, so they will do anything to get it (personally I agree with the new child support laws that are going into effect it could be a good thing because too many children are used for money pawns).

Some women feel/think they need to trap a man, once she becomes pregnant, she's no longer thinking of what's best for the child, the child becomes a patsy in her dysfunction.

Barbara Streisand's movie "Nuts" is an excellent example of how mothers will do anything to keep a man.

These things happen because mothers are not close enough to their own children; they lack the unique bond that will not allow anything to fly under the radar of what's going on in their children's lives. They might be working too hard, playing to much, being too self-centered, self-focused and just too self-absorbed, some even walk away from their child for careers, another man, drugs or any other petty and small thing that leaves their children to fin for themselves and whoever will care for them.

Black women are far to often slow to go for therapy when they really need it, slow to take good advice from someone who really cares, loves and wants the best for them and their children.

The answer, stay close, very close to your children, notice any changes in their behavior, know who their friends are, today don't let them spend the night out, there are too many devils in sheep's clothing, who will steal their souls and their spirit, stay active in "every" aspect of their life and wait until they are grown and on their own to do your own thang.

Black mothers must be the keeper of their own castle and put their children first, if they don't' it will be the children who will pay the highest price.

Don't have men around you and your children who abuse you, whether, verbally, mentally or physically, or men who any aspect of their behavior is "suspect".

Maybe you just need to keep your legs closed, no one ever died from being chaste, don't allow your children to become victims because of your weakness or lack of faith in The Most High.

Many things are said about Oprah, but regardless of them all, thank God she's paying one hundred thousand dollars to anyone who will turn in a child molester.

© March 2006 By Afromerica

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